When we hear the word wedding, the very thing that comes into our mind is enjoyment and celebrations. This wedding was no exception but what happened afterwards turned disappointing for the family.
Aloor Mosque committee in Palakkad’s Thrithala village follows a tradition of not allowing dancing, singing or even posing for pictures in a wedding for men and of the women does it then they deserve a boycott from them.
In January last month, Danish Riyaz and his family were boycotted by the mosque officials for dancing, posing, singing at a wedding function held at the mosque.
The family was boycotted because the women of the family not only went on the stage and posed for photographs but also speak on the microphone to give blessings to the couple. Also, an orchestra was arranged at the function to entertain the guests and children danced on the stage. These reasons were given to them for the boycott.
The wedding function was held on December 28, 2018, in Edappal in Malappuram district, 13 km away from Aloor.
Danish on a Facebook post wrote,
“This was my brother’s wedding party. I knew that our Mahallu (mosque) has some traditional rules which are not followed in most other parts of Kerala, including in our neighbouring village. It was to avoid any conflict with the Aloor Committee that we shifted the wedding reception to Viva Palace in Edappal, Malappuram, which is nowhere close to Aloor or the mosque.
Even though the function was shifted to another place, but the mosque authorities anger made them boycott the family and not only this they also insulted them publically.
“The next week, when we went for Friday prayers, the chief Khatheeb took to the mic to publicly insult us. He called it a vulgar wedding and said the mosque will no longer cooperate with my family in any matter,” Danish told
Danish brother for whom the reception was kept was summoned by the authorities. They have also stopped collecting a monthly fee of Rs 100 from the family for the betterment of the mosque. Further, the family has also been disallowed from entertaining the Ustads of the mosque for lunch (a practice held every three months).
Danish has taken full responsibility for the wedding reception to exempt his family from the boycott. He has said that his family was not aware of the preparations at the function and must be exempted from the boycott. Danish’s brother has also written a letter to the committee and requested them to exempt the boycott.
“It has been 45 days since we sent the letter and we have not heard from them. I have now, through my Facebook post, appealed to the Chief Minister, our MLA VT Balram and the State Human Rights Commission, to speak with the committee and help my family. This message has been heard and the police too had visited my house to ask us to contact them if we face any problems,” Danish added.
However, a committee member of the mosque has refuted and said that there is no ban on the family as such.
“We have stopped cooperating with them temporarily. Since 2010, we have followed a stringent rule where we don’t allow weddings to have musical programmes, dance, alcohol etc. We had informed everyone about this. We had also informed this family before their wedding. Even if they go to another district and celebrate their wedding this rule stays,” he said.