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Graphology – studying personalities through handwriting strokes

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Source: The Teenager Today

I was on a road trip in December 2016 with my partner. The two of us drove around 4000 km in south India. Needless to say, Google Maps was our best friend on this journey, as we couldn’t communicate with locals due to the language barrier.

The best part of loving your work is you are at work all the time. The world becomes a screen that keeps showing you new clues in the most random places. Being a life long, committed ‘learner’ in the space of personality study and behavioral sciences, I derive lessons in every humanly possible situation. Lessons that I actively use in my coaching sessions.

Mapping our route on this road trip taught me some interesting things about relationships.

  • You’ve got to know ‘your location’ on the map.
  • You need to be specific about ‘the location’ of your destination.
  • The distance between these points will change at any given point due to numerous conditions.
  • Service your car

Let’s look at all these points in the most important aspect that ails most of my clients – ‘Relationship’. No matter how successful we are, we cannot avoid the behavioral challenges experienced on a daily basis with people around us – Family, friends and colleagues. According to one of the worlds leading facilitators Marshal Goldsmith, the greatest problems faced by the most successful people are not strategic or financial but behavioral. Many of us believe that we are at war with people around us. We feel subjected to their judgments, criticisms, invalidation and approval.

You’ve got to know your location:

In my initial training as a counsellor, I was instructed to listen to my clients very carefully. Ask them certain questions and walk with them on this path of change in their life. The more I heard what people had to say, the more I could hear their stories without any validation. Stories. Interpretations. Judgment. There was no way to validate who they are. One day I chanced upon ‘graphology’ – the study of your handwriting strokes, which has been the simplest, most accurate and useful tool I have ever come across.

Strokes in your writing have around 800 variations and further permutations & combinations. Don’t be surprised to know that

  • You generally use 2-3 different types of the small letter t,
  • You can never create two exactly identical signatures and
  • You can never forget how to write, so even after a 8-10 years break in writing frequently a graphologist still can depict your personality accurately.

When we do not make any attempts to know our own personality we use others peoples feedback, expectations, judgments and behavior to interpret who we are. It’s like understanding your body while looking at convex, concave, broken or tinted mirrors.

You need to be specific about ‘the location’ of your destination.

Many of us start adjusting and compromising when it comes to relationship and like a time bomb we reach a point when we become forceful and dominating.  What is required of you and what is required of the other person? Rarely do we show courage to have this unpleasant conversation with people about what do we require. We spend a lot of time assuming things without confirming or choosing to ignore the obvious believing that they would change when it comes to you.

The distance between these points will change at any given point due to numerous conditions.

Relationships are alive, they are a dynamic space. They change everyday and that’s exactly what makes them engaging and tiring at the same time. In my sessions I often hear that though I am giving my best, working so hard, compromising wherever required my wife/ husband is not happy.

We need to learn a few tools. Can we drive a car without learning how to? Can we cook without learning how to? It surprises me that people spend so much of time getting a recipe right, parking again and again to learn how to do it well, go to gyms to build a body but do not consider educating themselves in the area of relationship. Why not? Several books, numerous articles, many professionals are available take your journey ahead.

Service your car:

No matter how scenic the route is, how nice those roads are, or how expensive your car is, a flat tyre or a problem in your engine will bring everything to a halt.

My expedition with graphology didn’t stop at understanding people, and took a different turn when I learnt about an undiscovered way of applying these strokes. I call it ‘masterstroke’ and work with the clients to build new neuro-pathways through micro changes in their handwriting strokes, where just 45 days can show amazing results. Initially, I didn’t want to believe it. I thought it can’t be that simple. I wanted the solution to big life problems to be complicated & hard. However, 12 years later I now feel sure about it. After many CEOs, artists, executives and couples showing specific results I am beginning to believe that we can create big shifts with simple solutions.

 

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